Never Understimate the Power of Self-Deception

....And I'm BACK! ...Again!

OK. At this particular point in time I am wallowing somewhat in a personal matter. The true nature and extent of it I will endeavour not to give away in this blog, because I don't want to tell you every goddamn little detail, just express to you my feelings as I try to interpret them. Those of you who know me well could probably guess what has brought this feeling on.

This last year was, to put it somewhat dilute, a real eye-opener. I have coined and adopted more live-by phrases than I ever did in a given year in my life before, and it is for good reason: I am FINALLY getting that life experience I unwittingly craved and needed all those lost years in high school and uni.

To the current point: About 11 months ago (almost this time last year) I concretely cottoned onto and adopted the importance of HONESTY in one's life. To all whom I have met and spoken to since then, I have crammed my perspective that Honest REALLY REALLY IS the best policy down their throats. This is of course, like all things political (which is ANYTHING that involves human beings), in need of tempering. Some people really can't handle the truth!
But on this bend, I wish to reiterate my most recent cotton-on and adoption/adaptation of life: the extreme prevalence of SELF-DECEPTION. The reason I have prefaced this with a rehash of my "honesty is good" exploits and realisations is that Self-Deception is the act of NOT being honest with ONESELF.

I am daily now firmer and firmer held with the analysis that this is an extremely prevalent, present, and abundant facet of human life and activity. In fact, I will dare to go so far to say right here and now that Self-Deception IS the human condition.
We all know what that "nagging doubt" feels like in the back of our heads when we are pondering a certain aspect of our lives. "Do I really want to go to that bar?" "Do I really need to have another cigarette?" "Do I really want to have sex with that person?" "Am I really in the right job?" "Do I really want to marry this person and have children with them?"

I am going to stop there, but hopefully ONE of those examples has hit you, my dear reader, close to home. Looking at it with the useless and nigh-on nihilistic stupor that the average human would look at my examples thusfar, it would seem that I am advocating the "do nothing" approach to life. Let me assure you now, both the smart and the moronic of you, that I AM NOT advocating the "do nothing" approach.
"Do Nothing" is how we got Appeasment and WWII; do nothing is why the USA will never never (never EVER) have a decent healthcare system; do nothing is the reason Japan is rotting at the core and dying through population shrinkage and human/anime cross-copulation.
I would never advocate "do nothing" because I, in whatever limited time I may have on this Earth, consider such an approach to life to be a complete, utter, and quite insulting way to live one's life (if indeed it can truly be called "living").

Now that I've made that abundantly clear to you all, I shall procede with my main point::

Self-Deception is what keeps us in jobs that we hate -- "I will never find another job if I lose this one"
Self-Deception is what keeps the fear pumping through our veins in times of crisis -- "the economic recession will NEVER NEVER NEVER end!"
Self-Deception is what keeps women in abusive relationships -- "I really do love him (despite the beatings and pummelings and self-esteem destruction"
Self-Deception is what keeps us in personal relationships that should or should not have been terminated months ago -- "he/she does care about me, he/she just has no time in his/her busy life to show it to me properly."
And to finally (for now):
Self-Deception is why we can think our lives are headed in some sort of direction and we are going somewhere when in all of reality we are still standing knee-deep in quicksand.

That job you hate: you probably got it because at the time of your hiring you were running around like a headless-chook, spooked out of your undies at the prospect of being unemployed "forever", and took the first job you could find. Such a state of mind is most commonly achieved by a human being when she has either just lost/left her last job, or has just graduated from tertiary education. In both instances a human is prone to adopt this end-of-days mentality quite fervently.

The Economic recession: Sure, jobs are being lost all over the world. Sure, currencies are fluctuating, and stocks are vanishing. I've been hit by it too. But, to quote an favoured TV show of mine, all of this has happened before, and it will happen again:: The Great Depression of the 1930s ENDED! The 1970s petrol crisis ENDED! The 1990s catastrophe in Asia ENDED! And the only reason each of them occurred, expanded, and carried on was that the human beings involved (you were probably one of them!) each carried with them the mentality "This is nver going to end!"). The only reason each on stopped is that someone somewhere came up with an outside-the-box idea that broke that end-is-nigh trend; and the peeons also forgot over time, too, busying their minds with further insignificant affairs while the mechanics of the affected system were straightened out by a relatively tiny group of people who had screwed their own heads on straight. Whether or not they did it benevolently is more than open to discussion.

As for the abusive relationships: I am not going to play shrink here and diagnose you. What I will say is that you either have something clinically wrong with you, or you are a fool. I hope for your sake that it is the former, and it is treatable somehow, because if it is the latter you are in for one dull, monotonous life of trashy-soap opera melodrama. For those of you who can help yourselves but do not, you must pull your fucking head in and gain some perspective. My point continues in the next paragraph:

As for the doomed realationships: and as for the abusive ones as well, there is a common ancestor to the feelings you are having. You must, both kinds of relationship's people, pull your heads in.
NO, he does not love you. If he HITS you, he DOES NOT love you. This is not to say that no-one will ever love you! For fuck's sake, I cannot believe that I have to make this point I'm making right now, but I have to because "No-one will ever love me, so I will stay with him!" is the single most popular go-to self-deprecation that you women use!
For all the doomed relationships: If you think it is doomed, then DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!
If she will not make time for you inside the space of 10 months, then she will never ever make time for you in the future. Things are NOT going to CHANGE by themselves.
Never in the history of humanity has a person simply woken up one day and said "OK! Today I'm gonna be a better, smarter person!" out of the blue!!!! Every single goddamn change in ever single goddamn person's life has come about because of some god-awful hardship that was suffered, analysed, and computed in the fathoms of the human mind top be solved by this change or that adaptation.
PEOPLE DO NOT CHANGE FOR NO REASON!!!!!! They do not change if left to their own devices. Simple mathematics and science (the kind I DO excel at) dictates that if you leave a person in a situation that they are somewhat comfortable in, that person will not go to any great pains to change their situation.
Why???
Because "I will never be in a more comfortable situation ever again in my life!" -- THAT'S WHY!!

And finally (for now)::

As for a direction in life:
Let me eradicate this little prevailing myth first-off: THERE IS NO GOD, and HE DOES NOT HAVE A PLAN FOR YOU!!
The sooner we overcome that massive piece of time-proof idiot-think and moron-melodrama, the better the human species will be.
And of course, it is for the sheer improbability of that last sentence that the human species is quite certain to circle the drain as it has for millenia to date.

Your direction in life is chosen, dictated, and executed by ONLY ONE PERSON:: YOU!!!!
This next sentence is SO FUCKING SIMPLE it is the epitome of irony that I will never be able to express it clearly enough:
Your life is YOUR LIFE! It is NOT his life. NOT her life. Not your parents' life, not God's life, not your King's life, not your President's, your Emperor's, nor even your child's life.
YOUR LIFE is YOUR LIFE. the Noun is "Life". The Verb for it is "live". YOU are the one doing the verb, YOU are the one LIVING YOUR LIFE!!

How, in the name of anything and everything in this Universe, could you possibly assert that your life belongs to something or someone else???? Mum or Dad are NOT living your life. your Head of State or Dear Leader is NOT living your life. When you get up in the morning and have bad breath, who is tasting the foul taste on your tongue, and who is squinting at the light?:: YOU!
When you use the toilet, when you shave, and when you are feeling heart-burn and indigestion, WHO is feeling all these little everyday things that sum together into "daily life"? :: YOU!
When you win a race, when you finish a paper, when you write a blog entry, when you think of a song, a poem, or a funny thought or ANY KIND, WHO is thinking, enjoying, and living? :: YOU!
When your heart is broken, you are wounded, or a loved one passes away, WHO feels the pain, and who suffers firsthand?:: YOU, YOU, YOU!

The term "self-centered" is bandied a lot as an extremely negative concept, for it has been mutated into a concept whereby one thinks only of oneself and never for any other.
Whether it is a mutated concept or not, I am not advocating any such kind of self-centredness. I fully acknowledge that we all live in the world TOGETHER, and we must therefore exist in some semblance of harmony.

I truly do think that if honesty is employed, in its fullest and most potent forms, and the most appropriate of instances, and always, that our world would be a Utopia. paradise on Earth.
But inside this world we are all individual minds. Hive mentalities have attempted to work, but have failed, because they require complete honesty about ALL things in their utter entirety amongst all the hive-members. Therefore Hives do not work.

Greed and self-centeredness has recently become the driving force behind world economics, religion, and politics. It has most recently led us to the Great Recession, "Terrorism" (whatever that is), and that permeating fear we have embraced because we'll be damned if we have to lean on someone else, or have some one else lean on us for fundamental support.

My new theory of Social Darwinism holds true even now, so late in this blog post. I believe that the self-deceptive of us are weak, for Self-Deception IS a weakness, of the most fundamental nature. The greater the degree of it in a person, the weaker that person is. The weak will die to make way for the stronger. A human utopia will probably never happen, because, like I said, Self-Deception IS the Human Condition. Therefore any such Utopis free of it would not be populated by "humans" as they exist today.

Only the ability to recognise self-deception in oneself and one's own life and actions will ignite the bonfires that can guide us out of our own personal fog-shrouds. This is Self-Honesty, and it is not going to come from anywhere but from within.
I can tell you, blog it, and preach it until my voice and fingers grow numb and fall apart, but you will never be free of your Self-Deception until YOU free yourself. You are the one holdling those keys, because YOU ARE THE ONE LIVING YOUR LIFE!

I hope this finds you well and fit in mind.

From The Tominator.